She turned the first page: Lessons for a Dominatrix.
LESSON #1: (THIS IS MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL!): Being a Dominant is 99% mental.
You must believe in and harness your power or you cannot expect anyone else to. This takes a lot of preparation and training. But it is the first and foremost important rule of being a Mistress. You are playing a role much like an actress plays a role. A Mistress must nail her part each and every time. She must tune in to what her audience needs from her and fulfill those needs. Leave them wanting more. Always remember, you become brave by acting brave.
LESSON #2: Sessions provide an experience.
Potential submissives (slaves) often ask what is involved in a BDSM session. They want to know what services are involved. The very use of that word “service” shows that the majority of people still see BDSM as some sort of service to be provided, akin to a massage, a haircut, or a visit to a brothel. Perhaps there are some Mistresses that place themselves in that category of “service provider.” Not at Dungeon Seven. Money often referred to as a tribute never exchanges hands between Mistress and sub. All tributes are handled prior to the session, taking place by a third party, the receptionist at Seven. When one wishes to have a session with one of our Mistresses, he is informed of how We at Seven approach the concept of a session.
First, our Mistresses do not provide services. It is the submissive (sub or slave) that makes him/herself available to serve the Mistress. It’s better to think of a session as a lesson. When coming for a session, a submissive expects to be taken on a journey: an inner journey into the realms of the mind, into one’s intimate senses. A session is an experience. Now, how much one gains from a session depends on his ability to learn, surrender, and trust his Mistress. While previous experience is not a requirement, only an eagerness to go on the journey, the clients at Seven are properly vetted and undergo an extensive selection process.
LESSON #3: You will see the same rotation of six clients during the duration of your term as Head Mistress. Never anyone else.
Included in your training materials, I have provided lengthy, detailed information on each client you will see. You will study their likes and dislikes, as well as specific information about what happens in an average session with that particular client. Explicit detail about each client’s specific and individual needs and deepest desires should be learned both for
ward and backward.
A good sub (slave) remembers all rules set up by his owner. He will do his best to uphold those rules and keep within the set boundaries. Keep in mind some subs like to push their Mistress, challenge her authority or be naughty; this only works if the Domme is compliant in such games. If not, the sub is breaking the golden rule by putting his own needs above his Mistress’s. This behavior must not be tolerated.
Commit this information to memory, as you will be tested. Remember, the submissives I am entrusting you with are my most valuable clients, and they must be treated with the utmost respect and care.
LESSON #4: Rules of a Session. Subs understand them. YOU enforce them.
A session begins with the submissive undressing and sitting in the chair in the middle of the room. The Mistress then fastens a black leather collar around the sub’s neck, which marks the beginning of the session.
The sub must always ask permission before he/she says or does anything. PERIOD!
A sub must always use the proper form of address when speaking to you. They must ask, “Mistress, may I have permission to speak?”
Submissives are never to say, “No,” when their Mistress instructs them to do something. If they don’t follow the rules of the session, it is imperative that they are disciplined.
The “Safe Word” is “MERCY.” Subs know to use this word when the situation becomes unbearable. Do not take this lightly. Stop the session and talk it out. Tune in to body language; use your intuition to determine when more or less is required within a session. Remember each session is different and treat it as such.
LESSON 5: Never underestimate your role as Mistress. Respect it. Uphold yourself to the highest standard at all times. Expect the same from your subs.
As Mistress you are a considered a therapist of sorts. Being a sub can take on many forms: being a slave, being told what to do, crawling around on all fours at Mistress’s feet, being kept on a leash or chain, feeding from a bowl, various fetishes, role playing, and, of course, being punished when naughty and rewarded when compliant. All of these scenarios stem from the same desire: the willing and joyful surrender of control. For a sub, nothing can be more liberating than this—to step out of the “real world,” relinquish responsibility, worries, and everyday pressures, and hand over his life to another.
Being a submissive is not a one-way exchange. It’s not about being helpless, being a victim, being lazy, and expecting someone else to do everything for you; it’s the eagerness to serve, to worship another, the willingness and desire to please. Submission is a ritualized role of surrender and devotion to another. And if there’s one golden rule that reigns above all others in being a proper sub, it is “THE DESIRE TO SERVE.”
It is essential that you understand the psychology involved in being a Mistress, the psychology behind what we do at Seven. My clients consist of high-ranking members of society: CEOs, physicians, attorneys, and wonderfully brilliant men from all over the business spectrum. What they have in common is that they come to Seven to create an environment where they don’t need to think, where they don’t have to be “on” and in charge and in control.
These clients are looking for an escape, the chance to let go. So they come to a place where they can trust me as Mistress to keep them safe while I weave together an enticing, thrilling, euphoric, and painful world where it is literally impossible to think. For some of them, it simply boils down to the fact that they do not have the freedom to explore their fantasies, desires, or sexuality with their partners.
You must understand that the majority of my clients experience an extreme imbalance of power in their lives. For some, it stems from extreme disempowerment, like child abuse, neglect, or poverty; for others, it is an overwhelming burden of power, related to everything from wealth to politics.
Addie closed the booklet and stared out at the ocean, suddenly feeling exhausted. What was she thinking? Who was she kidding, thinking she could handle this? She’d finish reading the training material and the client profiles, mostly because she was curious, but once she arrived back home, she’d face Sondra and tell her that she just couldn’t do it. Only it wasn’t for the reasons one might think. Addison found herself consumed by the rush, the range of emotions evoked and the thrill she got when she imagined what saying yes would look like. Overwhelmed by the mixture of fear and excitement coursing through her veins, her imagination led her to dark places in her mind. Places she wasn’t ready to admit existed.
William returned to find Addison down by the water. He stayed back, watching her. He watched the way she stared at the ocean, the facial expressions she made as she ran the sand between her hands. God, she was beautiful. He sat, thinking that he could stay here forever with her and be perfectly happy. He hated for this trip to end. Tomorrow they were scheduled to head home, where she would go back to her family and he would go back to the work that consumed him.
It bothered William that he felt so restless. It wasn’t a feeling he was used to having. Not only that but he had just closed on one of the largest acquisitions of his career, so why in the world did he feel so low? Is this what love feels like?
Addie spotted him sitting there. Something crossed her face, surprise maybe. She smiled, running towards him. Pouncing, she knocked him backward. Lifting his hands above his head, she pinned them there. “You’re back.” She said, tickling him. William squirmed. Addie frowned, noticing his dark suit. “But not exactly dressed for the occasion.” William raised his eyebrows and shrugged. She began tugging on his tie, unbuttoning his shirt. “We’ll have to change that.” Addie untied his shoes and removed them without taking her eyes from his. She removed his socks and pants, leaving him in his boxers. William watched her intently, the way she licked her lips unknowingly, the little expressions she made.
Addison climbed on top of him; placing her hands on both sides of his face, she searched his eyes. “Why so serious?
William smirked. “No reason.”
Addie sat back, crossing her arms. “Hmm. I’m not buying it.”