INTRODUCTION
Dirty talk, along with full body massages and cunnilingus, ranks highly as a female aphrodisiac. A deft tongue properly delivering descriptive lines of eroticism can have a woman gushing with lust. There is a stark difference among men and women when it comes to talking dirty. Women’s bodies and minds become flush with torridness. While men enjoy a modest bump in arousal listening to a woman moan and talk dirty. What fingers are to the body, dirty talk is to the mind.
Her whole body throbs in lustful alacrity when you describe the sexual tension of the moment and what you are doing to her (or will do) in vivid detail. Seeing a woman respond to you in that manner is its own reward.
The very act of talking dirty changes the way she feels and experiences sex in her mind. You can verbally lead her to heights of pleasure she had no idea existed. The art of aural sex. Dirty talk is about how you say what you say, why you’re saying it, and your tone of voice. When those three sing in harmony…
Dirty talking has nearly limitless possibilities.
The Sexual Dichotomy of Women
The sad reality is that many men are uncomfortable using dirty talk and one reason is because they fail to realize a dichotomy that all women possess.
A lot of women have a pure side, and a dirty side. “Good girl” and “Bad girl” if you will. Both are fun to express and play with, during sex. Women don’t often get to play both with one man, unless he is aware of this dichotomy propagated by society. A lot of women are afraid to initiate sex due to the negative labels associated with female-initiated sexual encounters. In short, this means that she’s waiting for you to lead. She will never allow herself to be wilder than you, so you must be sexually assertive.
You want to treat her with respect? Then have respect for the fact that she is highly sexual and wants mind-blowing sex with you. When alone with you, she wants to be dirty. Dirtier than you can imagine, but only with a man she trusts and feels safe around.
You must also demonstrate that you respect her as a person inside and outside of this sexual reality you create together. Always be a gentleman and treat her like a lady in the presence of others and while in public. After all, a gentleman is but a patient wolf.
Why Bother with Talking Dirty?
One of the strongest cases for using dirty talk is that if you don’t use it, her mind will wander. A wandering mind leads to the death of her pleasure and ultimately, her orgasm(s). Her wandering mind could sabotage her orgasm. You must lead her mind with your voice.
Here are two simple premises that exceptionally answer the “why bother” question.
Premise #1
Sex is mostly mental for women; physical stimulation takes a back seat to mental stimulation. Orgasm and pleasure, as well as the perception of the two, originate in the mind. Pleasure is mental. Orgasms are mental. Thus, you can give her an orgasm simply by talking to her and nothing else. You may not believe that now, but you will after you successfully apply the techniques in this book and its sequel.
Premise #2
The more aroused a woman is, the greater her potential for more pleasure as well as more powerful and even multiple orgasms. Dirty talk is one of THE best tools you have for mentally arousing a woman. It infuses sex with more tension by building anticipation, getting her to focus on sensations and pleasure and it also adds a hint of taboo. All those things are key ingredients for giving her ineffable, mind-blowing orgasms.
If those two premises are not sufficient to convince you then consider the following reasons:
? In order for her to have an orgasm, she must let go of thinking and focus on how/what she is feeling. Talking dirty to her keeps her mind focused...it allows you to captivate and lead her mind with your voice and words. It also allows her to just experience pure uninterrupted sexual bliss and leave the leading and thinking up to you. Dirty talk is essentially “keep her in the present moment and intensify her experience” talk.
? It communicates your expectations and directs her mind to elicit powerful responses to you.
o E.g. “You feel your clit throb when I touch your nipples, don’t you?”
? If she follows your lead and is sexually responsive to you, she will feel it or will invent (orgasmic alchemy at its finest) the sensation to allow herself to remain entranced by your sexual power.
? It can be used to magnify and awaken her pleasure by focusing her attention to her sensations and emotions (increases her sensual focus ability)
o “That feels even better” as you caress the inside of her thigh. You tell her what to feel, and she feels it. Period. That’s the power of sexually assertive dirty talk.
o “That pleasure pulsates through your moistness even more, doesn’t it?” as you caress her outer labia